Every single marriage at some stage will go through some tough times and little bumps along the way. Although it wont always be easy, there are always ways to pull through these times to make for a happy and long marriage. Not putting the effort in when it counts and not learning how to keep things on the straight and narrow will send any marriage off course.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married, 6 days or 60 years this advice will apply to everyone.
Now first of all I want to start with the fact that I am not in any way a marriage expert. Though I have been married to my amazing wife Vicki for a few years. See image below.
So how could I possibly give advice to all you lovely people without many many years of experience?
I got a little advice from people who are already married.
Below you’ll find years of marriage experience and advice of people I already know.
So hopefully if you apply some of this advice you can start or continue you your marriage with better; fun, sex, trust, affection and much more.
“Our best advice is to compromise, never let little things become big things and make time for each other with regular date nights!” – Jayne & Gregg Weir – See Their Wedding Here
“One of our private vows when we got married was one moment in our lives one moment when one and one makes one ….. so always remember you are an equal partnership. Respect for each other is essential!!” – Helen & Dave Kahn
“In order; Be friends, Be truthful, it goes along way, Believe in each other, Forgive, it’s always needed, Work together that’s what makes a strong marriage. Most of all have fun it makes good memories xxx” – Gill Gilbert
“-make time for each other
-being a team
-not to let the little things get in the way
-laugh every day together
-the importance of saying I love you
-always try to compromise
– putting up with each others bad habits
-always try to be spontaneous and surprise each other, even with small things like a cup of tea without asking
– and it can be bloody hard work (especially when a baby comes along)” – Vic & Jamie Berrisford
“Having been together for 10yrs and married 3 months my advice would be never forget those early days when you couldnt keep your hands off each other. When your heart skipped a beat as you saw a text or call from them…and know whilst it wont always be like that all the time your love will grow and as the years roll on you stand together and face every adversity… through thick and thin good times and bad you never doubt your partners loyalty and love for you as you feel the same way for him…the advice I would give to another couple is ‘If it feels good…dont say it!!!’ Words can never be unsaid…if your hiding it you shouldnt be doing it…and take time out to remember why you got together in the first place MAKE time for eachother MAKE an effort…effort means more than money and the little things really do go a long way.” – Sara Yates
“Don’t stay angry with each other for to long. We all make mistakes an say silly things from time to time so let the silly things go.” – Mark Owens
“Stole this of a friend but it’s so true:
For all of you youngens so eager to call it quits…. ❤️a real life long commitment is not what everyone thinks it is. It’s not waking up early every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It’s not cuddling in bed together until both of you peacefully fall asleep. It’s not a clean home and a homemade meal every day.
It’s someone who steals all the covers. It’s sometimes slammed doors, and a few harsh words, disagreeing, and the silent treatment until your hearts heal. Then…forgiveness!
It’s coming home to the same person everyday that you know loves and cares about you, in spite of and because of who you are.
It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds without finger pointing. It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life! It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.
It’s about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at 10 p.m. to eat because you both had a crazy day. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown, and your love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay, and you believe them. It’s when “Netflix and chill” literally means you watch Netflix and hang out. It’s about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane.
Living with the person you love is not perfect, and sometimes it’s hard, but it’s amazing and comforting and one of the best things you’ll ever know.” – Andrew Blisset (Stole From A Friend)
“Be open to change, Things, personalities & life is not the same the day you get married than tomorrow, always be open to new things with your partner.” – Fer Juaristi of ferjuaristi.com
“Our commitment to ourselves individually before the relationship even comes to question is something that is a foundation for us having such an epic connection
And what I mean by that is knowing that I get to look after myself first and Cliff gets to look after himself first before we can come together so powerfully is key!
Otherwise we would not be able to be the best version of ourselves to each other.
Also, communication and speaking everything we think knowing that we can’t make the other person feel a certain way.
If we don’t communicate, how can we possibly know what’s going on for the other person? It can only ever be an assumption and assuming makes an ass out of you and me as Cliff always says lol 😂
It’s taken us practice and lots of experiences together and of course commitment to get to this place.
So many people told us we’re here and we’re together because we can handle each other 🙂” – Marta Wilde of Cliff & Marta The Unlimited Life
“My advice on marriage would be, Have fun together and keep making each other laugh. There will be arguments and disagreements but the fun times should outweigh these and these are the times that great memories are made from.” – Sadie Johnstone
“Good times become great times when shared with someone you love 💕” – Jo Huntly
“Never go to sleep on an argument
Always make time for yourself as a couple. ” – Danny & Sarah Hurst
“Always apologise when you’re wrong.
Always try and remember the reasons why you married them in the first place. When differences of opinion arise educated debate is great. Shrieking is not so good. In those situations try to Keep your mind open and your mouth closed. Pick your battles and don’t forget they are human too. Just because their ideas and beliefs might be different, doesn’t mean they are wrong or any less important than your own. Compromise is a wonderful thing. Even though at times it is painful to acknowledge (mostly painful to acknowledge)….
Always support your spouse in whatever they want to do and understand that people will grow and change.
Embrace not impede ♥️” – Verity Flint – See Her Wedding Here
“Well after nearly 23 years together we have learnt not to argue about the small things. We very rarely argue because we have realised some things are just not worth getting upset about We have learnt to always communicate with one another. We know it’s important to do things together but also to do things apart & have the chance to have our own space. We make fun of each other (in a joking way obviously) it’s not always been perfect but we have learnt many lessons over the years. Stick with It & remember as we get older we change & so we have to be willing to adapt. Chris & I met when I was 16 & he was 17 so we grew up together so we have changed a lot (for the better) if you love one another you adapt. No one said it was easy but when we look back at how we have changed & adapted we are proud that we have always faught for each other & made it work 😍” – Claire Pendlebury
“Relax, have fun and enjoy each other’s company. Never get hung up on those silly little arguments 😊” – Jess Jones
“Make time for each other, laugh lots, use your differences to build strengths … oh, and a cup of coffee and a couple of ginger nuts in bed on a Sunday morning!” – Barrie Thompson
“Well, people say marriage is a 50/50 partnership, I’m saying there wrong because what I’ve learned over nearly 20 Years is that occasionally for what ever the reason maybe or whatever life throws at you , one or the other may not have it in them to put in their 50%, so it’s then the other needs to put in enough for both people. So it’s very rarely strait forward as both putting in the same effort all the time, sometimes you have to pull each other up off the ground and ignite the memories” – Gene Quinn
“Marriage isn’t all ups and comes with many downs. Remember why you married them when times get hard. Go back to your wedding songs and play them loud and clear. Never go to bed on an argument. Remember it give and take, one can’t do everything. If children come they will push you to extremes and fights will no doubt appear, just remember in each of them is apart of each of you. Say I love you daily even when you are mad because you never know what is in your partners head. Xx” – Rachel Kobak
“I would say to laugh and have fun together. Enjoying being in each other’s company and to make time even when your busy with kids/work to properly talk to each other, still be a couple not just mum an dad. X” – Anne Marie Jones
“Don’t go to bed on an argument” – Anonymous
“Honestly I believe cherishing the time you have together and making sure to get them to laugh as often as possible.
Enjoying the things you have in common and giving space but taking an interest in the things you don’t.
Making the extra effort, going the extra mile is the difference between friendship and love.” – Daniel Grove
“Best advise is as a husband if you ever really mess up start cleaning, a woman will never start arguing with a man that’s cleaning lol.” – Richard Boyd
There you have it guys some great marriage advice from those that know! I’ll add more as I collect it over time!
It may just help those you know!
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